Aurorina

How do you know you are in love with someone? Or if you may excuse me, what is love?

Is love just some kind of sexual attraction? You see someone, you find someone attractive, you hormon starts to react, you get excited, your heart beats faster, you blush, you get nervous, then you tell yourself you have a crush on someone. You work your way out, make someone love you back, then announce that you are a happy couple bathing in the river of love. So I would say love is or at least comes from sexual attraction.  If not, why they often say that love is irrational, unmeasurable? Why they’d say that you can’t analyze love like you are solving a math problem?

Do we really love anyone more than ourselves? I doubt it. If we do, then why would we often try so hard to change someone in the way we like it rather than they like it?  If they like jeans and t-shirts better than suits, why would we want them wear suits sometimes? If they are more comfortable not to talk much, why would we want them to be more talkative, more sociable? If they have the only hobby of playing video games, why would we hate it if we really love them? We couldn’t even let the kids be themselves. We are happy only when they match our expectations. Everything we meet with in our marriage may be the first time, but we all grew up from a little kid. We ourselves should know what the kid’s life or thoughts would be like. But why would we get so disappointed or angry if the kid does something wrong or fails one crap exam? Something happens and the kid is gonna get through it. why could we just provide some productive advice and help and comfort, why do we have to yell at them? Why would you want the kid to do something or be someone you wanted to do or be but never got the chance to do or be? Do you ever ask them if they’d like to?

Love should let your loved ones be comfortable with who they are, what they do. Love should make them feel confident to be themselves. You shouldn’t change someone in the name of love into another person you like but they don’t.

Love brings out the best in someone. Love does not create another best person that wasn’t there.